Marriage : Uncommon PRINCIPLES | Principles of Magnetizing Your Divine Spouse by Dr. D.K Olukoya

Uncommon PRINCIPLES

You don’t need to look outside the scripture to know how to magnetise your divine partner. God has given us, in his word, principles that would enable us to succeed in achieving amazing connection to people who will move us forward. If these principles are discovered and carried out meticulously it would surprise you that it is possible to magnetise your divine partner in an amazing manner. The principles contained in this chapter will succeed where other methods have failed. The principles are explosive. These tested and proven principles will draw your God-appointed partner to you like a powerful magnet. There are twenty of them explained in this book and we shall carefully go through them, one after the other.

PRINCIPLE ONE

You must understand the spiritual law of attraction

The spiritual law of attraction states that you will attract the kind of energy which you emit. The energy could be positive or negative. In the physical, likes attract, contrasts repel.

Every human being has a sort of spiritual charge, whether positive or negative. The type of energy you radiate determines the kind of person that will be attracted to you. In other words, every man or woman is a living magnet. If your type of magnet is negative, it would attract negative people. If your magnet is built in accordance with positive values, positive people will reach out to you. If you have discovered that majority of those coming to you are negative, it is an indication of the fact that there are lots of negative elements in your life.

If you have a high propensity towards getting angry, such a vice will attract negative things and draw people without virtue to you. If you are always getting

depressed, depression would attract negative things into your life. On the other hand, if you are always happy, excited and upbeat, people with positive values will be drawn to you. If you are a bundle of chronic deception, deceptive men and women will keep milling around you. This is where serious prayer is needed. You must take care of the problems which such negative attributes have attracted into your life. People generally get what they deserve in life. If you are spirit filled, righteous and Christ like, member of the opposite sex who have these virtues will find a way and get to wherever you are.

The law of attraction is a very powerful law. It is not possible to escape being attracted to people who share the same emotions, faults and negative attitudes with you. The Bible says

Proverb 23:7

For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee.

Your deep inner thoughts are capable of projecting themselves and becoming magnets that will attract people who share the same sentiments. What you are pre-occupied with in your heart often become an energy that attracts similar things into your life. Job confessed;

Job 3:25

For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me.

What Job feared attracted negative things towards him. If you fail to manifest faith in God when you are about making a choice, the devil will push negative things to you. Those who sit down to cry uncontrollably are generally busy magnetising all types of problems into their lives. Most people are yet to understand the meaning of the passage below.

Philippians 4:8

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any ‘Virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Nothing can force itself on you except such a thing has located similar things in your life.

A lady came to me recently and declared “Hatred for marriage comes up within my heart whenever I catch a glimpse of my mother”. Such a lady was busy attracting negative forces to herself by using her mother as a standard rather than look unto Jesus, the author and finisher of faith. There is nothing you can do to stop the law of attraction from functioning.

PRINCIPLE TWO

Ask God to send ministering angels to uproot your partner from wherever he or she is.

You need the ministry of angels if you are praying for divine connection with your God appointed spouse. Most of the time your partner could be in a wrong location where both of you may never meet. If you are permanently in the south, while your partner is tied to some activities in the north, you may never meet to pursue the divine agenda of marriage. You may, therefore, need to take the following prayer point.

“O Lord, send your ministering angels to uproot my partner from wherever he or she is.”

Unless you take such a prayer point, your and your partner may remain two parallel lines that never meet.

When ministering angels are sent to uproot your partner, he or she will be united and brought to where you are. Jesus needed to ride on an ass. Behold the ass was tied to a tree. It was loosened with the declaration “The Lord has need of it.”

Mark 11:2-7

And saith unto them, Go your way into the village over against you: and as soon as ye be entered into it, ye shall find a colt tied, whereon never man sat; loose him, and bring him. And if any man say unto you, Why do ye this? say ye that the Lord hath need of him; and straightway he will send him hither. And they went their way, and found the colt tied by the door without in a place where two ways met; and they loose him. And

certain of them that stood there said unto them, What do ye, loosing the colt? And they said unto them even as Jesus had commanded: and they let them go. And they brought the colt to Jesus, and cast their garments on him; and he sat upon him.

Your partner has no business staying away from you. If you do not know how to take appropriate prayer points, your partner may be lost in the jungle even when he or she keeps seeing revelations concerning being married to you. What you or your partner may simply need is divine relocation. Prayers of relocation must form an intrinsic part of the prayer points which you take up when you want God to guide you in the area of marriage. When God relocate you or your partner, your marriage plans will be pursued with speed. Do not forget to ask God to dispatch angels to cause divine relocation that could move your marriage forward.

PRINCIPLE THREE

Ask God to send you your divine partner whom He has created for you. Prayer is a mystery. When we understand the principles of prayers, the results will be amazing. We thank God for the amazing things He has been doing through the prayer points which the Holy Ghost has given to us.

Some prayer points may appear strange but those seemingly strange prayer points are exactly what people need when other methods seem not to be working. There is nothing as powerful as praying on target. You must know how to pray and get instant results. As far as the issue of marriage is concerned general prayers are not adequate. You need to be specific in your prayers.

The mystery of prayer is that God often waits for your prayer instructions before He does what will move you forward in life. Is it not amazing that the creator of heaven and earth awaits your being specific in prayer. There is no doubt. God has created a divine partner for you. It is not automatic that the partner will knock at your door without any effort on your part.

The Bible says

Ezekiel 36:26-37

A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh. And I will put my spirit within you, and cause you to walk in my statutes, and ye shall keep my judgments, and do them. And ye shall dwell in the land that I gave to your fathers; and ye shall be my people, and I will be your God. I will also save you from all your uncleannesses: and I will call for the corn, and will increase it, and lay no famine upon you. And I will multiply the fruit of the tree, and the increase of the field, that ye shall receive no more reproach of famine among the heathen. Then shall ye remember your own evil ways, and your doings that were not good, and shall lothe yourselves in your own sight for your iniquities and for your abominations. Not for your sakes do I this, saith the Lord GOD, be it known unto you: be ashamed and confounded for your own ways, O house of Israel. Thus saith the Lord GOD; In the day that I shall have cleansed you from all your iniquities I will also cause you to dwell in the cities, and the wastes shall be builded. And the desolate land shall be tilled, whereas it lay desolate in the sight of all that passed by. And they shall say, This land that was desolate is become like the garden of Eden; and the waste and desolate and ruined cities are become fenced, and are inhabited. Then the heathen that are left roundabout you shall know that I the LORD build the ruined places, and plant that that was desolate: I the LORD have spoken it, and I will do it. Thus saith the Lord GOD; I will yet for this be enquired of by the house of Israel, to do it for them; I will increase them with men like a flock.

God is ready to send your divine partner to you. What will happen will depend, by and large, on the divine response to your prayer. You must constantly ask God to send your divine partner to you. This is the step many spinsters and bachelors are waiting for in order to become eligible to give outstanding testimonies in the area of marriage.

PRINCIPLE FOUR

Be genuine.

People hate those who are fake. When you are genuine, it becomes easier for God to work out His will for your life. You must avoid any form of pretentious

attitude. Nobody expects you to copy anyone around. Whoever you are, be real. Be yourself either in the public or in the secret. Be who God wants you to be. If God has made you to be upbeat and lively, keep that lifestyle. Never allow anyone to make you cringe in fear. Keep away from any from of habit that makes you sound like someone who is fake.

Even if you make mistakes, own up. When people spend time around you, let them discover that you are real. If you are a man, be a real man.

As a lady, avoid the lifestyle of a chameleon. Whoever you are at home or at work must be who you are in the church. Do not live the double life. Let those who interact with you see that you are not hiding under the veneer of hypocrisy no matter the challenges. Be bold and stand up as a man and woman of impeccable character. Beware of the leaven of hypocrisy.

I have a word here, for bachelors and spinsters who are eager to get married. You must be consistently consistent in allowing those who come across you know that you are not pretending in any way. If you are a lady who loves to talk, you may miss your partner if you pretend to be quiet to a fault. Unknown to you, such a man may have passion for a very lively partner. By the time you are busy concealing your real self, you will be busy snobbing the person who is supposed to get married to you.

PRINCIPLE FIVE

Be matured and self confident.

A lot of spinsters and bachelors are missing out on God’s plan for their lives through immaturity and lack of confidence. Let me make this very clear to you. No one on earth is perfect. There is nobody who can claim to know how to do things perfectly. Once in a while, everyone gets tired. At one time or the other, we all lack self confidence. Beloved, anybody can be intimidated. Anyone can get to a situation where internal fears come to the fore. To face such challenges, you only need to manifest maturity and confidence. Your self esteem determines your behaviour in the public. Low self esteem may make you to bite your fingers, keep pulling your dress and feeling jittery when it appears that you are standing before someone who

can intimidate you.

When you come in contact with people, you must learn to stand tall and confident. You need to be physically and emotionally stable. You need to be financially and spiritually matured. You need to face whoever you are with boldness and exude confidence. There is no reason why you have to lose your voice when you come across your divine partner. Let whoever comes across know that you have what it takes to function as daughter or son of God. Yet, you should be modest. But, we should avoid every form of modesty that gives us inferiority complex. You should take note of the fact that as a creature of God, you are fearfully and wonderfully made. Those who are timid often forget the fact that they are up to the task. The moment you cultivate a matured approach to life, you will soon discover that you can control whatever situation in which you find yourself.

PRINCIPLE SIX

Do not be desperate.

As far as marriage is concerned avoid being desperate. You must keep your eyes wide open and avoid any form of tension. When you appear desperate, the opposite sex may take advantage of you.

Those who are desperate generally go far anything. They make mistakes and fall into deadly traps. Those who are desperate often expose themselves to risks. Whenever you come across someone who is desperate, you will discover certain statistics. The person will be busy looking for attention and make themselves cheap. Such people lose their dignity and exchange phone numbers and addresses with those who exchange casual greetings with them. Those who are desperate often consider marriage proposals which they know will never work.

Desperate bachelors and spinsters are chronic liars. They make friends with anyone and flaunt themselves carelessly. They lack discipline and are prone to multiple mistakes. Show me a bachelor or spinster who is desperate and I will show you someone who falls into errors at will. You need to avoid any form of anxiety, worry and desperation.

Psalm 46:10

Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.

Those who are desperate are shallow in prayer. They lack confidence in God and lack moral strength. Those who are aware of the sufficiency of the Almighty have no business being desperate. The moment you discover that God is fully in charge, nothing will ever move you. You will throw panic into the sea. Your life will be characterised by quietness and assurance.

PRINCIPLE SEVEN

Do not act like a woman when you are a man.

Never act like a man when you are a woman. It is crystal clear that there are feminine qualities.

It is common knowledge also that there are masculine qualities. A man is expected to act in a masculine manner while a woman is expected to manifest feminine attributes. The man takes authority, leads and directs affairs wherever he is. A woman is submissive, modest, painstaking and courteous. It is wrong when men usurp the roles of the women and women usurp that of the men. The Bible has outlined the roles of the man and the woman.

Ephesians 5:21-28

Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

When you appear in a place as a woman and all you want is to dominate and compel everyone to take orders from you, people may begin to run away from you. The average bachelor detests a spinster who wants to dominate like a man. On the other hand, if you are a man and you appear womanly in conduct no lady will want to come under your leadership God has assigned certain roles to men. Do not usurp the roles of the opposite sex. God has given certain responsibility to women. Do not abdicate your role and responsibility.

What we often forget is that people easily form opinions when they witness our conduct. Ladies who are too loud are regarded by the society as snobs. Men who cringe in fear excessively are regarded by women as weak and feminine. If you are man, be a man. If you are a woman, be a woman.

PRINCIPLE EIGHT

Be respectful.

Respect and courtesy are virtues needed by bachelors and spinsters. Common courtesy is fast disappearing. Ladies are supposed to respect men. Men are also expected to respect women. We live in a world where good manners has been termed old fashioned. Ladies no longer respect men. Men are also looking for how to take advantage of the womenfolk.

It was not so in Bible days. For example, Sarah called Abraham Lord.

1 Peter 3:1-6

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any

amazement.

If it were to be in this generation Sarah would have just called Abraham by name. We have pushed this situation too far as a result of the influence of the women liberation movement. Beloved, we must go back to the old time religion. We must go back to the Bible. We must bring back the old fashioned respect. One thing which most men want today is respect. Men are looking for women that are very respectful. They will easily avoid women who are not respectful.

PRINCIPLE NINE

Do not be too forward.

Character is like smoke, it will come to the surface, no matter how hard you try to hide it. The problem of delay in marriage is often traced to what can be termed character ineptitude. A lot of people who are busy praying are equally busy repelling their divine partner. To be frank with you beloved, the man or woman you wish to get married to is completely human. Though he or she is spiritual, your would be spouse is also alert, watching to see if both of you are compatible in the area of character. Once your character falls below standard, your partner may be tempted to walk out of the relationship. Ladies especially should watch against being too forward. The man, according to the scriptures is supposed to lead while the woman is expected to be submissive.

Ephesians 5:21-24

Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

James 1:19

Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:

Ordinarily, when a man is too forward, mistakes are easily made. It is worse when a woman is too forward. The Bible says be slow to speak and quick to hear. Wise bachelors and spinsters are expected to be tactful, reserved, and

careful. Being rash is a sign of carnality. When a lady is too forward, she betrays the fact that her life is devoid of brokenness. Wise bachelors and spinsters must avoid being impulsive. When you begin to relate with your would be spouse, you need to listen and look before you leap. Never take anything for granted. Allow God to give you wisdom as you relate practically before and during your journey into marriage. An average lady who appears too forward cannot be desired by men who are looking for partners. You need to allow God work on your character and change you in your personal relationship.

PRINCIPLE TEN

Do not be too aggressive.

Marriage is a life long affair. The journey of marriage is so long that you do not need to rush into it. When you appear too aggressive, those who are around may begin to suspect that you possibly have a skeleton in your cupboard. Ladies or men who are too aggressive often scare away those who are supposed to become their partners in the area of marriage. You are free to be aggressive in the area of business or your academic pursuits. But when you are aggressive in your choice of a partner, the person who is supposed to come up with a positive answer may begin to say that the force with which you are pursuing your agenda shows that something is wrong somewhere. When a bachelor is too aggressive, the ladies or the partner mat be scared. Aggressive people send wrong signals to those when they relate with.

Marriage requires gentleness, tact and the best form of courtesy. When you are too aggressive people will begin to see you as having a domineering partner. When you are too aggressive your partner may begin to feel unsafe. When you are too aggressive you hurt people’s feelings. Those who are too aggressive may obtain negative answers when a calm attitude would enabled have them receive a positive answer. You need to be spirit guided. When the Holy Spirit guides you, your steps you will not need to act as if someone is pursuing you and you must get all the result here and now. The Bible says:

Isaiah 32:17

And the work of righteousness shall be peace; and the effect of righteousness quietness and assurance for ever.

When you are sure of the leading of the Holy Spirit, you will not be aggressive at all. When the spirit of God has taken over, you will experience the anointing of ease. Avoid being aggressive. Let patience be your watch word!

PRINCIPLE ELEVEN

Do not be Mr. or Mrs. know it all.

There are various instances of failed courtships and marriages simply because partners’ attitudes are unbecoming. If the man and the woman conduct themselves with tact and humility, there will be peace in the home and joy in relationships. When partners conduct themselves as it they know everything and others are foolish, there would be conflicts.

No one on earth is a reservoir of knowledge. There is nobody who knows everything. Women and women who claim that they know everything are often those who manifest a lot of foolishness. The moment you tell yourself that you know it all is the very moment you are exposing your lack of knowledge. Often times, when a lady and a man are trying to come together in they have all the knowledge in the world.

Even if you have all the answers you should be modest and conduct your affairs as if you are a beginner in the school of knowledge.

Those who claim that they know everything often make serious mistakes. Let your spouse know that there are many things you do not know. Let those who are around you, know that you are ready to learn. With a teachable spirit, people will love to be around you and be willing to share knowledge and materials with you. If Eve had admitted that there are certain things she did not know and humbly sought clarifications from Adam before committing herself to the serpent, she would have avoided avoid falling into the satanic trap. Beloved, you do not know everything. Be humble enough to admit your inadequacies. You will not loose anything. Just go as your knowledge can carry you. There are times you need to say ‘I am sorry, I don’t have all the answers.’ This will give you a lot of respect.

PRINCIPLE TWELVE

Do not be too argumentative.

The tragedy of winning an argument is that you may win all the points and end up loosing your partner. An argument is only a view points. The view points could be right or wrong. If you win an argument that does not make you a good husband or wife. You must avoid arguments. Arguments separate partners. Unfortunately, many have won arguments and lost their God-appointed partners. There is every indication that those who revel in arguments will grapple with the same problem when they get married.

When you are too argumentative, you will end up sending a wrong signal to your partner. You can express yourself with wisdom and common politeness without being unnecessarily argumentative. Arguments evoke nagging feelings; argument have affected bosom friends, separated partners in marriage and kept those who have benefited from each other far away. Even if your own line of argument remains unaccepted, you can decide to build a good relationship in spite of the initial hiccup.

Marriage is a very delicate arena. The important thing is to build a relationship and work on resolving the differences between both of you.

PRINCIPLE THIRTEEN

Slow down and learn.

If there is any field where men and women demonstrate lack of tact and wisdom, it is in the field of marriage. We are willing to learn new things in our professions. We often acquire new knowledge in many areas of life but many have remained stark illiterates in the area of marriage. People hardly read about ingredients that make marriages work but only very few are willing to acquire the type of knowledge that will make the journey of marriage smooth or hitch free. Nobody is an expert in the area of marriage. We all have the capacity to improve and make marriage a glorious experience. All we need to do is to slow down and devote meaningful time to learn how to conduct our affairs in the area of marriage. Those who are willing to learn often come up ,with improvement in

their marital experiences. The Bible says

Proverbs 19:2-3

Also, that the soul be without knowledge, it is not good; and he that hasteth with his feet sinneth. The foolishness of man perverteth his way: and his heart fretteth against the LORD.

Lack of knowledge is undesirable. When you lack knowledge, you demonstrate lack of wisdom. This leaves much to be desired. The Bible says, it is not good that you be without knowledge. Agreed, you are anxious to get married, but have you taken time to learn the essentials of marriage? Have you taken time to learn the essentials of marital relationship? Verse 3 gives us the reasons behind the high spate of broken relationships today. There is no denying the fact that bachelors and sprinters are busy programming clogs into the wheel of the progress of their marital journey. The Bible says: the foolishness of man perverts his way. Yet, many people are busy blaming God. God is not the author of confusion. The real culprits are the bachelors and spinsters. The solution is to sit down and learn. When you acquire knowledge, your marital journey will be less cumbersome. You will save yourself lots of pain and agony. The lessons you have learnt will unleash upon you the anointing of ease. Learn and your steps into marriage will become giant strides.

PRINCIPLE FOURTEEN

Change your prayer level.

Prayer plays a crucial role in the area of marriage. Although, marriage is physical, it is settled through prayer. It is just that many do not know how to pray in the right way. Effective prayers require that you employ the weapon of result oriented prayer. God has graciously given us several prayer patterns. If you have discovered that you are not getting result . from the present prayer patterns which you have utilised, you will have to change the level of your prayer.

There are seven different levels of prayer. These levels reveal various heights prayers can be taken to. The level of prayer you decide to adopt, depends on the results you anticipate.

LEVEL ONE: ASKING

Asking is a simple form of prayer. It is a practice that is borne out of a desire for a particular thing. In the area of marriage for example, you can easily ask God to take care of your needs for a partner. However, if you keep asking and nothing happens, you can move from this level to the next level.

LEVEL TWO: SEEKING

Seeking in prayers entails finding out or looking for. This shows that you want to know something. In other words, you are digging deep by asking why. “Why have I prayed and I have not gotten an answer”. This is an example of seeking in prayer. This prayer patterns reveals that you want to find out and obtain answers by all means. When you adopt the-method of seeking in prayer, you are definite. If this prayer pattern does not suit your particular situation, you may decide to go to the next level of prayer.

LEVEL THREE: KNOCKING

When you knock, it is a mark of desperation and earnestness. It reveals that you really want to obtain a definite answer. This is when you go into sessions of aggressive prayer and you want to secure heaven’s attention. Knocking requires repeated pounding. The fellow who stands by the door knocking shows the degree of seriousness. When you knock the gates of heaven constantly, heaven will stand at attention. The more persistent you are, the earlier you will get result. However, if the answer is not forthcoming you may consider the next level.

LEVEL FOUR: FASTING AND PRAYER

There are many levels of prayer. When you combine prayer with fasting, it shows how desperate you are to get heaven’s attention. There is fasting and there is fasting. There is what can be called kindergarten fasting. There is executive fasting. There is partial fasting. There is ice cream. fasting. There is what can be termed wilderness fasting. Jesus and Elijah carried out what can be called the absolute fast.

Executive fasting is a type of fasting you go into, with your food well packaged and you are waiting for the time, when the clock will strike twelve and you will run to break your fast. This type of fasting may not bring any result. However, if fasting and prayer have not appeared to have brought results, you may decide to go to the next level of prayer.

LEVEL FIVE: PETITION

This is a serious form of prayer. Here, prayer is combined with weeping. It is otherwise known as crying or liquid prayers. To get heaven’s attention, you dab your face with hot tears and you decide to pour out your heart like water before the Lord. When you chose this level of prayer, you will allow tears to £low non stop. You will cry like Hannah did in 1 Samuel 1:6-10

1 Samuel 1:6-10

And her adversary also provoked her sore, for to make her fret, because the LORD had shut up her womb. And as he did so year by year, when she went up to the house of the LORD, so she provoked her; therefore she wept, and did not eat. Then said Elkanah her husband to her, Hannah, why weepest thou? and why eatest thou not? and why is thy heart grieved? am not I better to thee than ten sons? So Hannah rose up after they had eaten in Shiloh, and after they had drunk. Now Eli the priest sat upon a seat by a post of the temple of the LORD. And she was in bitterness of soul, and prayed unto the LORD, and wept sore.

This kind of prayer cannot be denied. Hannah got results when she cried unto God. Again, you may decide to move forward to the next level if you must come up with far greater results.

LEVEL SIX: VOW

When prayers are backed up with vows, you are as it were, moving the hands that move the world. Vows move God. When you make a VOW, you are indirectly compelling God to do a particular thing. Your vows can motivate God to break all existing protocol. This is what Hannah did in 1 Samuel 1:11

1 Samuel 1:11

And she vowed a vow, and said, O LORD of hosts, if thou wilt indeed look on the affliction of thine handmaid, and remember me, and not forget thine handmaid, but wilt give unto thine handmaid a man child, then I will give him unto the LORD all the days of his life, and there shall no razor come upon his head.

If your prayers appear not to have been answered, you can convert them into vows.

LEVEL SEVEN: WRESTLING

Prayer can take you from the level of human limitation to the level of divine possibilities. Jacob wrestled with God. He became elevated to the level of a prince who had power with both man and God. Matthew 11:12 reveals that wrestling entails the introduction of violence into your prayer.

Matthew 11:12

And from the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heaven suffereth violence, and the violent take it by force.

When Jacob wrestled in prayer, he had sleepless nights. He decided that he would not let the angel go until he was blessed. You can decide to pester God, as it were, until He settles you in the area of marriage. You can decide to give God no rest until He makes your marriage a praise in the earth.

PRINCIPLE FIFTEEN

Engage in daily positive confession.

The Bible says

Proverbs 18:21

Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.

A lot of people have remained unmarried simply because they always say

negative things about themselves. Words have negative power. The words you speak will either make or mar your plans in the area of marriage. The law of sowing and reaping is a very strong spiritual principle. If family members, neighbours and colleagues are busy speaking negative words, your life is under a curse and as such words accumulate, you may keep swimming against the tide.

It is worse when you speak negative words about yourself. If you listen to what bachelors and spinsters say when it comes to the issue of marriage, you will understand why there has been a harvest of negative marital experiences. When a lady says “Marriage is hell on earth. Men are devils I am not going to put myself into any bondage in the name of getting married.

Marriage? Count me out. Marriage is out of my consideration simply because I am scared that the devil may be waiting there to torture me.”

If you examine the story of Job, you will discover that what he feared was exactly what happened to Him. The Bible says

Proverb 6:2

Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth, thou art taken with the words of thy mouth.

You must be careful about your utterances if you want positive things to happen to your marriage either now or in the distant future.

One of the greatest principle of faith can be found below.

Mark 11:23

For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith.

Here is the law “He shall have whatsoever he saith” You need to verbalise the word of God. Avoid satanic utterances. There are terrible demons always hanging around to enforce negative confessions, either uttered innocently or carelessly. If you want to experience quick and amazing results, try daily

positive confessions.

Biblical confessions will paralyse all forms of satanic agenda. The positive words will activate angelic intervention. Confession will bring possession. It will also magnetise your divine partner to you wherever he or she is hiding. Positive confession, once based upon the word of God and vomited by the Holy Spirit will work wonders in your life.

The daily confessions will counter what evil powers are speaking against you in the spiritual realm. It will also remind God of what He has said concerning you and cause heaven to ensure that there is a performance of what has been decreed to move your marriage forward. Remember “Let the redeemed of the Lord say so”. The confession below must be made consistently, aggressively and with faith that cannot be denied.

DAILY CONFESSION TO MAGNETISE YOUR SPOUSE

I believe that my destiny has been settled in the courts of heaven. Everything that has to do with my marriage has been sealed and settled by the blood of Jesus. The word of God has declared that if I am obedient, I shall eat the good of the land. I have decided to be obedient unto God in every area of my marriage. Therefore my marriage shall be glorious.

I declare today, that Jesus is the author and finisher of my marriage. Therefore, I am getting married successfully. By the ordinance of heaven, I shall get married to the right person whom God has prepared for me. Therefore, I put my feet down on the fullness of what Jesus meant when he declared ‘it is finished.’ I shall be magnetized to my divine spouse. I command the angels of God to locate my partner and connect us together without any hitch whatsoever. I confess that family members, friends and colleagues shall not be used by the devil to frustrate God’s agenda for our marriage.

We shall get married at God’s appointed time. Our home shall be blessed, our union shall be glorious, we shall be fat and flourishing. As we come together in marriage, we shall be convened to God’s battle axe. As it is written that one shall chase a thousand and two shall chase ten thousand, together with my, spouse we

shall chase and disgrace thousands of our enemies. Our marriage shall make history.

Since we fear the Lord and walk in His way. Therefore, we shall eat the labour of our hands. Happy shall we be. It shall be well with our family. My spouse shall be as a fruitful vine around me. Our children shall be like olive plants round about the , table. The Lord shall bless us out of Zion and we shall see good days. We shall see our children’s children. By the power of the Holy Ghost, every agenda of darkness shall fail. The counsel of the Lord concerning our family shall stand. We shall be for signs and wonders. Our family shall be at the forefront of the generation of carriers of the fire of the Holy Ghost. I seal this confession by the blood of Jesus, in Jesus name Amen!

This confession can be made daily. Remember, the fruit ofyour lips shall be created.

Isaiah 57:19

I create the fruit of the lips; Peace, peace to him that is far off, and to him that is near, saith the LORD; and I will heal him.

There is a word of caution here. With this powerful confession, you are hereby forbidden from speaking angry words or using any form of language that is contrary to the will of God. This confession will produce wonders in your life. You shall activate a new beginning in your marital journey. Don’t stop making confessions. This is your weapon of victory over anti-marriage forces.

PRINCIPLE SIXTEEN

You must put your faith to work.

There are principles of the kingdom that are highly operative in the area of marriage. The Bible tells us that faith without works is dead. If you are praying to discover and know God’s will in marriage, you must put your faith into practice.

There is the need for practical action. Our beloved bachelors and spinsters who have prayed and fasted extensively have actually received answers to their

prayers. But, if the prayers have been answered and no practical action is taken to possess your possession, the devil may continue to cheat you. Faith is not passive. It is active. Faith will make you to rise up and take certain actions. Faith will move you out of complacency. It will make you to begin to act in certain ways.

There are certain things that God cannot do for you. For example; the man who was sick of the palsy was commanded to arise, take his bed, and walk.

Matthew 9:6-8

But that ye may know that the Son of man hath power on earth to forgive sins, (then saith he to the sick of the palsy,) Arise, take up thy bed, and go unto thine house. And he arose, and departed to his house. But when the multitudes saw it, they marvelled, and glorified God, which had given such power unto men.

He had to rise up and carry his bad by himself as an act of faith. As soon as there is a witness in your heart that the Lord has answered, there are practical steps you have to take. This includes coming out boldly to inform the marriage committee and confidently informing your spouse at the appointed time. Of course, you will also have to talk to your parents with unshakeable conviction. For example, when we pray for people who are looking for the fruit of the womb, we encourage them to demonstrate their faith by coming with items of clothing or materials for babies. These items of faith are bought by those who are looking up to God in order to ignite heaven and move God’s hand to work for them.

You can begin to visualise the presence of your spouse as a companion, in your car, the living room, the bedroom or the kitchen By faith, you can begin to envisage the time you will begin to enjoy the company of your spouse. You must actually make preparations towards the time when you will become fully married. Folding your hands or being passive is an indication of the fact that you have no faith whatsoever.

Beloved, you need to start making preparations by faith that you are going to get married, and that the hand of God will be on your home. Do not allow the devil to intimidate you. Throw every form of doubt into the dustbin. Begin to manifest the type of faith that cannot be denied. Faith will surely turn your situation

around. Do not forget. Faith honours God and God honours faith.

PRINCIPLE SEVENTEEN

You must be patient.

One of the greatest ingredients needed for success in the journey towards marriage is patience. A lot of people who lack patience have given up too soon. Patience and preference go hand in hand. There are challenges in every area of life. The fact that problems are coming up in a particular area does not mean that things will not work in that area. Patience is very important. You will need to be patient with your spouse. You need to learn to bear with every actor in your marital experience.

Marriage is about love and love is patient. If what you have perceived as God’s will in marriage is real, then your patience will be put to text. I have a word, here, for our bachelors and spinsters. One major virtue which you will need more than any other virtue when you get married is patience. The truth is that the patience you do not have when you take initial steps into marriage may be difficult to cultivate when you face the nitty-gritty of marriage.

Couples who lack patience will easily suffer as casualties on the field of marriage Hence, you need a large dose of patience to be able to overcome every bout of marital malaria when it strikes. Patience is important. You need to ask God to baptise you in the spirit of patience. The truth is that those who lack patience lack true love. The Bible says “Love believeth all things” You need to pray fervently that God should give you the patience that is needed to make your marriage work.

PRINCIPLE EIGHTEEN

Let your thoughts be pure.

The Bible says; as a man thinketh in his heart so is he. Your thought is a reflection of the state of your heart. Your thoughts are capable of taking you higher or lower in life. By and large, your marriage will remain the sum total of your thought patterns. If you allow the enemy to invade your thought life; you

have automatically allowed incursions.

You must learn how to barricade unhealthy thoughts from gaining access into your life and consequently your marriage. Negative thoughts will produce an unhealthy marriage.

You must learn how to focus your thoughts on pure things. Your marriage can be likened to a computer, what you programme into it is what it will process.

One practical rule about the computer is summed up in the phrase “garbage in, garbage out” If all you programme into your marriage are negative thoughts that can be likened to junk, that marriage is already crippled. However, if you program positive virtue, strength, glory success and progress into your marriage your marriage will be loaded with positive values and virtues.

Philippians 4:8

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

You must build your marriage on the bedrock of truth, justice, honesty, purity, true love, praise, virtue, good report, and other godly attributes. These virtues must be the bricks or blocks with which you build your home. Here is my counsel for bachelors and spinsters. If you are praying for a peaceful and godly home, you must be ready to cast away all the vices that are previously found in you. A healthy home can not thrive on ungodly things. Let your thought life be saturated with ingredients that will make every step toward marriage to glorify God.

PRINCIPLE NINETEEN

Flee from sin.

God has a glorious plan for your life. It is the intention of God to make your marriage a specimen of His glory and your home a sort of heaven on earth. But

there is only are thing that can keep the hand of God away from you marriage. It is sin. If only you can meditate on the depth of love which the Father has for His only begotten son, you will be shocked to know that the moments the son was bearing the sins of the whole world, the Father had no option than to turn His eyes away from Him. If sin could make the King of kings and the Lord of lords to earn the displeasure of the Almighty, what do you think will happen if mere mortals decide to toy with sin?

Sin can hinder your prayers, it will create a veil that will separate you from you partner. Sin will throw your marital destiny into the dustbin of shame.

Sin will automatically make those who come across you to detest you. Sin will push the angel of your blessings further and further away from you. Sin will rob you of marital blessings. Sin will make you blind to the point when you will not be able to see your spouse when he or she is approaching your location.

Sin will keep pushing your engagement dates away. Sin will create mysterious problem that will hinder your marriage plans. Sin will fill your heart with confusion and uncertainty. Sin will cripple your faith and assassinate your glory. Sin will make you to fall from great heights of marital favour. Sin will rob you of your opportunity to sing your song and dance your dance.

Sin will push your helpers away. It will instigate you to get angry and pull down everything you have spent time to build. Sin will make you labour and avoid obtaining your rewards. Sin will push your miracles farther away. Sin will scatter your glory and increase you woes. Flee from sin if you want your marital plans to work out.

PRINCIPLE TWENTY

Serve God.

This is one of the most important principles that guarantees being quickly magnetised to your spouse. The quickest way to the heart of God is commitment to His cause. When you serve God, He ensures that your interest is protected. When you are busy advancing God’s kingdom here on earth, God will get involved in every department of your life. As long as you are busy for God, there

is no way He can watch you suffer when he knows that his kingdom is your primary concern. Those who serve God are the apples of his eyes

1 Chronicles 16:20-22

And when they went from nation to nation, and from one kingdom to another people; He suffered no man to do them wrong: yea, he reproved kings for their sakes, Saying, Touch not mine anointed, and do my prophets no harm.

When you serve God, He will not allow anyone to constitute headaches to you. God has the highest stake in those who are busy serving Him. God cannot allow things to go wrong in your marriage when He knows that you are one of His ambassadors on earth. My heart goes out to those who have dropped out from the service of the Lord simply because nothing is working in the area of marriage. If you allow the devil to win the battle, you will fail. Keep serving the lord. Keep on promoting His kingdom. God cannot allow you to suffer. He cannot allow the devil to disgrace you. You are important to God. No matter how the burden of getting a partner is make sure that you are always doing something for God. Do not allow any set back you are going through to make you abandon the service of the Master. Who knows? Your divine partner may show up when you are busy serving the Lord.

Keep on serving God and God will ensure that all that pertains to you are well taken care of.

I counsel you to go through these principles several times. These are the only ways you can magnetise or attract your divine partner. Remember, God will always do His part. Once you are ready to do your part, everything is settled. You will experience uncommon divine favour. While your colleagues are busy struggling, you will merely stand still and see the salvation of God. People will begin to wonder why your case is different.

The doors which your colleagues are busy trying to force open will open unto you of their own accord.

These principles will become a very strong magnet that will remain irresistible to your partner. A mighty force will draw your partner to you. You will receive

uncommon grace as you take giant strides into the realm of uncommon marital breakthroughs. Beloved, you can get married with ease. You can discover your divine partner effortlessly. Just follow these principles and your story will change.

Finally, I want to remind you of the fact you have a great deal of praying to do. You have tarried for too long in the land of non-achievement. With the prayer points below you can fasttrack your journey. You can recover and reclaim every ground you have lost to the enemy. Pray as if you have never prayed before. Pray like a lion who has just received fresh wounds. Pray for changes that will re-write your history. Pray yourself into marital breakthroughs today.