Laying the FOUNDATION
So far, we have realized that the solution to the problems of people in the area of marriage in this modem era can only be solved when we all go back to the Bible. We have tried to use our own methods and our personal efforts have not gotten us anywhere. The only way we can achieve what we have longed for in the area of marriage is to go back to our creator and allow Him to fix things properly. Marriage is an institution ordained by God for the benefit of mankind. Until we allow God to guide us and establish us in what He has ordained we will continue to record woeful failure in this area.
A lot of books have been written on marriage. But the more people have read those books, the more they have become confused. What we need today is not human philosophy and diplomacy. We need books that would call a spade a spade. We must get to a point when we are fully ready to follow God’s word, line upon line and precept upon precept.
PEACE AND FULFILMENT
When we obey God’s word to the letter, we will find peace and fulfillment in marriage. What matters is not our own ideas. It is the plan which God had when He came up with the institution of marriage. Until we empty our hearts of worldly notions and ideas and embrace the teachings, directions and the instructions in the word of God we may continue to grope in the dark. You may ask, how did marriage start? What lessons can we learn concerning the beginning of marriage as an institution?
Genesis 2:20-25 .
And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept:
and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
THE SLEEP
The first mention of marriage in the scriptures is loaded with lots of practical lessons. For the umpteenth time I want to state the fact that marriage is God’s idea. It is quite interesting that while God established the first marriage man was passive while God was active. It was God who spotted Adam’s need for a help mate. It was God who made Adam to go into deep sleep when he wanted to bring Eve. This simply means that Adam was totally uninvolved when God wanted to give him a wife.
ABSOLUTE SURRENDER
Perhaps you have made several efforts that have ended in futility. Now is the time to let go and let God have His way. When God wanted to give Adam a wife, Adam’s opinions were not necessary. Here is a lesson for everyone who is looking for a life partner. You need to allow the marital area of your life to go into a deep sleep while you allow God to do His work and usher your divine partner into your life. You have been too active for a long time. The efforts you have made have not really helped you so far. When we allow human intelligence and subtlety dictate the steps we take, we will not get anywhere. Unless you go to sleep, you cannot allow God to be at the driver’s seat and control the minutest details of the steps you are taking in the area of marriage.
SPIRITUAL ANAESTHESIA
Beloved what most of our bachelors and spinsters need today is serious spiritual anesthesia. We have witnessed too many incidents of failed courtships simply because many people are pretending to be who they are not. Many people have simply fainted or pretended to be asleep when God wanted them to be dead to
the world and alive in the spirit. Beloved, the truth is that Mr. or Mrs. Flesh must die. God knows the end from the beginning. You must allow Him to subject you to a deep sleep. Then, God will carry out His own experiment and bring out His divine purpose for your marriage.
This teaching may be contrary to popular teachings that have held people under bondage for too long a time. Some people have been erroneously taught that to attract a suitable partner they must spot a psychedelic outlook, parade airs of affectation and manifest smart tendencies. Beloved, God does not need you to catwalk stylishly as a sister before your appointed partner notices you. The point I am making here is that you must completely surrender to God. Your mind must be at rest over this matter.
The more you give in to worry and anxiety the older you will become. Worry increases your blood pressure. What confuses people is anxiety for marriage. Getting married is not hard when God is in control. However when you usurp the authority that only God has, you may become frustrated.
If Adam was fully awake and allowed to personally work out the choice of his partner, so much sweat would have been generated. His efforts could have been a sort of hit and miss attempt. The beauty of the first marriage is that Adam slept while God handled the driver’s seat. It was God who fashioned the lady and Adam only woke up to discover what God had completed.
THE SURGERY
When God was in the process of making a woman for Adam, surgery was involved. God had to open up Adam to remove one of his ribs to make the woman.
If Adam was left to determine what he wanted, he would have avoided surgery. Beloved, every surgery involves pain. This shows that the process of finding a divine partner may sometimes be painful. Good things may not always come easy. The spouse you obtain through cheap means may be lost in the same cheap manner.
The journey towards marriage is not without attendant pains and challenges. Even when you have succeeded in discovering your God-given partner, you
could still experience pain in form of initial reluctance by your partner, disagreement of members of his or her family as well as tribal barriers. But you must be prepared to endure the pain.
A rib was taken from Adam and a woman was made. Herein lies the mystery of the rib. Spiritual surgery is needed to enable each man find his missing rib. As a man, your missing rib is waiting somewhere to be discovered and magnetized. You need God’s help in this regard. The enemy is actively at work trying to make sure that the ribs do not find each other. But when you go into spiritual warfare, spiritual cobwebs are removed and the ribs are brought together. If you can take your stand and break the hold of darkness that creates a gulf between you and your missing rib, you would have solved a big problem. If your journey towards marriage must succeed, you need to put all these spiritual principles in place.
THE SYMBOL
Here we need to take a second look at what the rib symbolizes. Marriage is not a competition. It is an institution that follows the divine pattern. I want you to take note of the fact that the bone was taken from the rib of the man and not any other part of his body. The place where the rib was taken from reveals the divine intention for marriage. The rib was taken close to the heart to enable the man love and cherish his wife. God could have taken the rib from somewhere around the feet of the man. This would have given the man an excuse for trampling upon his wife. The rib could also have been taken from somewhere at the side of the man. This would have made the man to see his wife as a competitor. God located somewhere around the heart to remind every man planning to get married that the wife is a helpmate.
Today, the average man is busy looking for a cook while the woman is busy looking for a banker or a financier. The wife is not a competitor. She is a helper, companion and home maker. The wife plays a complementary role, not a competitive one. The wife is not a servant but a joint heir of the grace of God with the husband. The wife is not a domestic servant. She is simply a helper raised up by God to make the home a place where God is glorified and the kingdom of God is moved forward. The home is a place of rest.
THE UNION
It is a place where the husband and the wife are brought together to enjoy the grace of God. The home is a kingdom within the kingdom. It is a nation within a nation. It is a place where efforts are joined together in order to provide a common front to pull down evil strongholds and uphold the glory of God. The union that is found in marriage is so strong that no amount of problems or battles of life can separate it. Unfortunately, modern viewpoints have swallowed the old time principles of marriage. Yet the only way we can experience healthy marriages is to go back to the same theatre where God made marriage at the beginning.
You need to lay your life on the operation table and allow God to start and finish His work. The moment you are able to go through this process successfully you are on the right track; moving to the destination of marriage that can truly be said to be made in heaven. There is no other way. This is the way of the cross. Herein lies the sum total of the faith of our fathers. This is what we must discover in order to recover what the enemy has stolen in the area of marriage. You have a great deal of prayers to do. These prayer points will take you to the theatre of your marriage.
If you pray aggressively, certain things will happen in the spiritual realm. Anti-marriage strongholds will be pulled down. Hidden termites will be consumed by fire and you will witness the dawn of a new day in your match towards the realm of a glorious marriage. As you take these prayer points you will experience mysterious manifestations. Long term bondages will be broken. God will unfold his agenda and you will surely come up with testimonies.
Prayer Points
- Lord, I give thanks to You for Your plan for my marriage.
- Father, I worship You for the partner You have chosen for me from the beginning of creation.
- I confess and repent from any act of sexual sins.
- I confess the sins of my ancestors which have been having negative influence on my marital life.
- Ask the Lord for forgiveness.
- Lord, make known to me the secrets needed for my marital breakthrough.
- Help me Lord, to discover my real self.
- Let every imagination of the enemy against my marital life be rendered impotent, in the name of Jesus.
- I renounce any covenant existing between me and spirit husband or wife, in the name of Jesus.
- Let the power in the blood of Jesus separate me from the sins of my ancestors, in the name of Jesus.
- I divorce my conscious and unconscious marriage to the king or queen of the coast, in the name of Jesus.
- I renounce any evil dedication placed upon my life, in the name of Jesus.
- I receive freedom from any programmed satanic marriage by fire, in the name of Jesus.
- I break every evil edict and ordination upon my destiny, in the name of Jesus.
- Lord, wash me from blood contamination, in the name of Jesus.
- I renounce and loose myself from every negative dedication placed upon my life, in the name of Jesus.
- Holy Ghost, prepare me for my life partner, in the name of Jesus.
- I command all demons associated with the dedication I broke away from in the past to leave now, in the name of Jesus Christ.
- Lord, see my need for marriage and establish me, in the name of Jesus.
- I take authority over all the associated curses, polluting my marital joy, in the name of Jesus.
- Lord, cancel the evil consequences of any broken demonic promise or dedication in my life, in the name of Jesus.
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